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Sometimes the question isn't the question.
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Sometimes people come to coaching with a question. “Should I leave my job?” “Should I move?” “Should I stay in this relationship?” “What should I do next?” “Is this what I really want?” And sometimes… the question isn’t actually the question. Underneath: “Should I leave my job?” might be: “Why am I afraid to admit that I’m unhappy?” Underneath: “Should I stay?” might be: “Why am I so afraid of starting over?” Underneath: “What should I do next?” might be: “Who am I if I stop doing what everyone expects from me?” That’s one of the reasons I love coaching. Sometimes we need to get curious about the question itself. Because when you understand what’s really happening, the next step often becomes a whole lot clearer. It's a big reason why so many times during a coaching session clients say to me "Sonja! That ONE three minute (question, statement, thought) was worth the whole hour. If there’s something you’ve been turning over in your mind lately, you don’t have to arrive with the perfect question. Bring the messy version. Bring the “I don’t even know where to start” version. Bring the thing you’ve told three friends already and somehow still haven’t figured out. That’s what the hour is for. CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR COACHING HOUR 60-minute private coaching | $55 Sincerely, Sonja |
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Join the email community that supports people with the practices that help you thrive while navigating a full life & plate full of to-do’s without compromising your well-being or your success. I combine two decades of experience as a leader, small business owner, coach and self-mastery expert to teach others how to balance success models that fit YOUR energy, values and vision.
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