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Self-awareness isn't supposed to make you feel worse.
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There’s something I’ve noticed about self-awareness. Most of us have gotten really good at observing ourselves… and really bad at being kind to the person we’re observing. We notice the pattern: “I always do this.” We recognize the behavior: “I knew I was going to do that.” We identify the trigger: “Of course that happened. I know exactly why.” And then we use our newfound awareness as evidence against ourselves. See? I’m still doing it. I should be further along. I should know better. I’ve already worked on this. What’s wrong with me? I help my clients notice that’s not really self-awareness. It's self-judgment wearing a very sophisticated outfit. 😂 Self-awareness isn’t about collecting evidence for the prosecution.
It’s about becoming curious enough to tell the truth without immediately making yourself wrong for it.
“I notice I do this.” See how that's very different from “I can’t believe I still do this.” One creates information. The other creates shame. And shame is a terrible place to try and make good decisions from. Ask Yourself this:What's something I've recently caught myself doing that I’ve promised myself I wouldn’t do? And instead of asking: “Why am I like this?” replace it with: “Hmmm. What’s happening here?” You may be surprised by what you learn. Sincerely, Sonja P.S. If you'd like to share with me what you noticed after answering the prompt above, hit reply. I'm curious to heat from you. |
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