There’s a lesson I’m practicing right now that sounds simple. It isn’t. I am learning not to manage other people’s feelings. And the more I practice it, the more I realize how often managing someone else’s feelings can look exactly like love. Think about what we teach children. When something hurts, feels unfair, embarrassing, frustrating, or scary, we want them to come to us. And when they do, we want them to feel safe. We want them to know they are loved. So we fix things. We intervene. We...

Sometimes we’re trying to fix someone else’s feelings because we can’t tolerate our own discomfort. We call it helping. We call it loving. We call it keeping the peace. And sometimes it is. But sometimes we’re trying to make their discomfort disappear because we don’t know how to sit with it ourselves. That’s something I’m practicing right now. I’ll tell you more and how you can apply this practice in the upcoming newsletter this weekend. But for now just know that this isn’t my first time...

There’s something I’ve noticed over and over again when I work with people. Especially people who lead businesses, teams, or organizations. They come to me with a problem they believe needs to be solved. And usually, they’re right about the problem. But sometimes they’re wrong about where the solution lives. Recently, I was talking with a business owner who was struggling to hold their team accountable. They already knew what needed to happen. They knew the conversations that needed to be...